20 | Catching You: A Father-Daughter Podcast Journey

[00:00:00] So that's part of the reason why I wanted to do that with her.

[00:00:04] The name of the podcast is Catching You.

[00:00:06] I wrote a poem for her when she was 14 years old called Catching You.

[00:00:13] It's playing words, right?

[00:00:15] It's part of those, I love catching you with your friend.

[00:00:18] I love catching you with hanging out with your brother.

[00:00:21] I love catching you.

[00:00:22] So different things in her life that was going on.

[00:00:24] I love catching her.

[00:00:25] Catching her in the act is the playing of words.

[00:00:27] And I also love catching her bullpen.

[00:00:30] But not after a while when she started getting faster than my eyes that were going bad,

[00:00:37] I didn't really love catching her as much as I used to.

[00:00:40] Hello and welcome to Catching You, a dad and daughter softball journey.

[00:00:44] I'm Rusty, a dad who's been in the dugout and on the sideline.

[00:00:48] And I'm Lacie, the daughter whose journey through softball has been filled with incredible

[00:00:52] winds, tough losses and so many lessons both on and off the field.

[00:00:56] For the past 16 years we've navigated the highs and lows of softball together

[00:01:00] from the local fields to national tournaments and everything in between.

[00:01:05] From the challenges of recruitment during COVID to the mental and emotional roller coaster that comes with being a student athlete

[00:01:10] we will be sharing the perspectives of both a parent and athlete

[00:01:14] and firsthand experience of the impact of sports on mental health

[00:01:17] and the importance of support from the sidelines.

[00:01:21] Welcome back everyone.

[00:01:23] This is your co-host, Rusty Henn, of Catching You.

[00:01:27] My other co-host is actually going to be playing in about 30 minutes.

[00:01:32] She was unable to make it to this week's podcast so I'm flying solo again.

[00:01:39] And one of the things I wanted to talk about was

[00:01:43] I was doing a pre-interview, pre-planning for a podcast that I'm going to be on

[00:01:49] that Lacie and I are going to be on next week.

[00:01:52] And one of the questions they asked me was why are Lacie and I doing a podcast together?

[00:01:59] And great question.

[00:02:01] You don't see a whole lot of father-daughter type of podcasts out there.

[00:02:05] She's always been fascinated about doing podcasts.

[00:02:08] She talked about maybe doing one at her school as a friend.

[00:02:12] I'm currently doing one.

[00:02:15] It's not out yet, but I'm currently going to be doing another podcast in the real estate investing section,

[00:02:21] being another guy we're going to do a podcast regarding buying and selling homes on terms.

[00:02:28] So I can put that in the link if you guys want to everyone listen to buying and selling homes on terms.

[00:02:36] But it was a great question.

[00:02:39] And my analogy to them was, and I forgot who I heard this from,

[00:02:45] but it's the first 18 years when you have a child, the first 18 years you're pretty much seeing them every day.

[00:02:52] Right? Not every day, but just every year you're with them and they're living in your home

[00:02:57] and then they go to college.

[00:02:59] Most go to college, not everybody, but I'm speaking primarily to people that,

[00:03:02] the kids that go off to college for four years or so.

[00:03:05] The analogy was you see them for 18 years and then the next 18 years,

[00:03:13] hypersuggestionally let's say they do go to college,

[00:03:15] the next 18 years and then after college they find a job, they get married, have kids,

[00:03:22] so they are starting their own line.

[00:03:24] So the next 18 years you only see them for a total of one year, if that makes sense.

[00:03:33] So for the next 18 years in that 18-year span, you're only going to see them for 365 days.

[00:03:41] These are rough numbers, right? There's nothing exact science,

[00:03:44] but so that got me thinking it's true, right?

[00:03:47] When she went off to college we had only faced timing every once in a while

[00:03:50] but it wasn't like we were seeing each other.

[00:03:54] We'd go and watch her play and see her that way,

[00:03:58] but this way I mean Lola too, hop on a podcast with her, film it.

[00:04:05] I get to see her, we get to plan the podcast,

[00:04:09] we get to talk about how our day was

[00:04:12] so it's really cool to be able to hang out with her.

[00:04:16] We're not near each other physically but we're on camera together

[00:04:20] and I'm able to see her and just see her faith every day

[00:04:24] and ask her questions, how she's doing.

[00:04:26] So that's part of the reason why I wanted to do that with her.

[00:04:29] The name of the podcast is Catching You.

[00:04:31] I wrote a poem for her when she was 14 years old called Catching You

[00:04:38] and it's playing words right?

[00:04:40] It's part of it was I love catching you with your friends.

[00:04:43] I love catching you with hanging out with your brother.

[00:04:46] I love catching you so different things in her life that was going on

[00:04:49] and I loved catching her.

[00:04:50] Catching her in the act is playing words

[00:04:53] and I also loved catching her bullpen.

[00:04:56] But not after a while when she started getting faster

[00:05:00] then my eyesight was going bad

[00:05:02] I didn't really love catching her as much as I used to

[00:05:06] but that kind of leads me into what I was doing personally

[00:05:11] and if you can see there's a book right here called Living Forward

[00:05:15] so I really highly recommend the book Living Forward

[00:05:20] and what it basically has the end in mind

[00:05:24] and having the end in mind meaning what on your last days

[00:05:30] what are people going to talk about?

[00:05:32] What are they going to hypothetically at my funeral?

[00:05:35] What are they going to say about me?

[00:05:37] So that kind of hit home because my mom right now

[00:05:40] is going through some hard times

[00:05:42] and so this kind of gets me thinking about the end

[00:05:45] and how I want to live my life

[00:05:47] and how I want other people to view me

[00:05:49] and how I want to treat other people.

[00:05:51] So I really recommend it.

[00:05:53] What it does is you think about your different aspects of your life

[00:05:58] so your personal life, your relationships

[00:06:03] relationship with your wife, relationship with your kids,

[00:06:05] relationship with friends, your relationship with financing.

[00:06:09] So different aspects of your life

[00:06:11] and you break it down into those categories

[00:06:14] and those categories you treat them like a bank account

[00:06:18] if that makes sense.

[00:06:20] Your spiritual life, you treat that as a bank account.

[00:06:23] Now in bank accounts we're always looking to see

[00:06:26] if it's in the black meaning you have a lot in the reserves

[00:06:31] meaning it's a healthy bank account.

[00:06:33] Are you living paycheck to paycheck

[00:06:36] where you're stressed out about paying the bills?

[00:06:40] It's not as bad.

[00:06:42] It's not a healthy one but it's not you're so making money

[00:06:46] and money is coming in but money is also going out.

[00:06:49] How's that relationship

[00:06:50] hypothetically with your wife or your husband

[00:06:53] or your son or daughter?

[00:06:55] So what I did is I tick those categories

[00:06:59] and then are you in the red meaning can you not pay your bills

[00:07:03] or are you missing payments?

[00:07:05] And again it's not about financing

[00:07:07] one of the categories is but you think about your life

[00:07:10] and you think about those categories

[00:07:12] and you think about it as a bank account.

[00:07:14] Now am I doing really well with my relationship with my wife

[00:07:19] and is it in the black?

[00:07:20] Is it healthy?

[00:07:21] Or are we living paycheck to paycheck?

[00:07:23] Are we stressing out?

[00:07:24] Is our relationship not doing so well?

[00:07:26] So you look at it and you dig deep

[00:07:29] and you really have to be honest with yourself.

[00:07:32] So that's what I've been doing with my life

[00:07:35] as far as my relationship with my kids

[00:07:37] and my wife and friends and family.

[00:07:40] My bank account, my spiritual

[00:07:43] and it was very healthy.

[00:07:45] It was a very healthy exercise

[00:07:47] to visualize what people would talk about

[00:07:49] would say about you at the end of the day

[00:07:51] and I highly recommend that

[00:07:53] because it changes the way you talk to people

[00:08:00] changes the way that you react.

[00:08:03] I'm not reactive anymore.

[00:08:04] I just let things go

[00:08:06] because a lot of things aren't as important

[00:08:08] as I thought they used to be.

[00:08:10] So yeah, so this is a really short podcast

[00:08:14] I just want to do a real quick solo podcast

[00:08:16] just to throw out there what's on my mind

[00:08:19] as far as relationships

[00:08:20] and why my daughter and I are doing this.

[00:08:23] She on her end, she was struggling

[00:08:26] with some mental health issues

[00:08:28] and again she's a competitor

[00:08:30] she hates the lose

[00:08:32] and when she's not doing well

[00:08:33] then those type of things start to creep in

[00:08:36] and she really wants to bring it to light

[00:08:38] as far as it is a thing

[00:08:40] it's a challenge sometimes

[00:08:42] because you have the top softball players out there

[00:08:45] I'm sure the top softball players

[00:08:47] have their mental issues

[00:08:49] and a lot of girls don't talk about it

[00:08:51] and again if you talk about it too much

[00:08:54] then you start getting into this depression

[00:08:56] so what you want to do is just recognize it first

[00:08:59] hey I'm feeling a little different than I used to

[00:09:03] but then you got to find strategies

[00:09:05] and that's what she wants to do

[00:09:06] she wants to find strategies for other people

[00:09:09] to get out of that funk

[00:09:11] like a lot of funk

[00:09:12] like what strategies can you use

[00:09:16] in order to get out of that mental funk

[00:09:20] that a lot of people get into

[00:09:22] and that's why a lot of girls

[00:09:24] they just end up quitting softball

[00:09:26] or again they quit

[00:09:28] whatever is going on in their life

[00:09:30] they quit

[00:09:32] I'm not the same girls

[00:09:33] but people that have mental health issues

[00:09:37] they give up because it's not worth it anymore to them

[00:09:40] what she wants to do is she wants to help them get over that

[00:09:43] those mental roadblocks so to speak

[00:09:47] and have them thrive in whatever their pasturing about

[00:09:50] again this is just a short little podcast

[00:09:53] we're going to be

[00:09:56] not necessarily an interview we're going to next week

[00:09:58] we're going to hook up with Fundamental Fastpitch

[00:10:02] it's a great podcast

[00:10:04] you guys should go out

[00:10:06] before you listen to ours with them

[00:10:09] go check it out they have over a hundred episodes

[00:10:11] they do a great job

[00:10:13] on their end

[00:10:14] and we're just going to chat

[00:10:17] they're going to ask us questions

[00:10:19] we're going to ask some questions

[00:10:20] we're going to get into Lacey's college experience

[00:10:23] maybe look back at her recruiting process

[00:10:27] and go from there

[00:10:29] but yeah we have some really cool things come up

[00:10:31] in the very near future

[00:10:33] and I hope to see everybody on the other side

[00:10:35] take everybody

[00:10:36] Lacey if you're listening I love you